“I think we’ve been socialised into being people pleasers,” says Natalie. “I think that when we’re children – I think it’s both sexes but particularly for girls – we are socialised to be good and kind and meek and mild. Don’t make waves; don’t make things awkward.
“The message then becomes please your parents and they will love you.”
In the podcast, we also discuss how to cope at work when handling requests from other people, especially when our first instinct is to say yes to anything people ask (very useful!).
The episode also covers how to say no to family, even when they are putting pressure on you.
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