In a world that’s so connected by social media, loneliness is often invisible – you might not even realise that you’re a lonely person.
It often doesn’t occur to us to ask: am I lonely? But when you begin to think about it, the signs are all there – lack of social contact, minimal contact with society and feelings of isolation.
Long-term loneliness can be detrimental to our health and have a real effect on our sense of wellbeing.
In The Moment writer Jo Carnegie was interviewed for the Radio Gorgeous podcast about the impact of invisible loneliness – listen here.
Read on to learn more about how loneliness can affect you and take our personality quiz to find out if loneliness is affecting your life.
Can being lonely affect your health?
Yes, it can. Loneliness can have a big impact on your mental health and can lead to feelings of depression and anxiety. A 2017 study found that loneliness damages your health as much as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
On the other hand, feeling depressed and anxious can also make you feel lonely and cut off from society – it can become difficult to identify which came first once you’re stuck in the cycle.
Although you can feel lonely because of a lack of social interactions, it’s also common to feel lonely even though you have friends around you or when you’re in a relationship.
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9 ways to to cope with loneliness
Make new connections
If you’re not getting enough contact with other people, it might be a good idea to make some new friends or find new ways to meet people. Why not join an evening class, start volunteering or find a new community to join online.
Tell your friends and family how you’re feeling
It can be hard to admit that you’re lonely, but once you open up you’ll start to receive the support you need – and you’ll find that many of them feel the same!
Don’t overwhelm yourself by taking on too much at once – take small steps. Start by meeting one or two people in a relaxed location and go from there.
If you’re trying a new class or workshop, why not ask a friend to accompany you to the first one? That way, you won’t need to worry about not knowing anyone there and it’ll take some of the stress out of the situation.
Don’t compare yourself to others
Social media can skew how you see others – it might look as though all of your friends are living it up, but are they really? You’re only seeing the image that they want you to see.
Check your health
Sometimes you need to check in and think about how you’re doing – both physically and mentally. Are you getting enough sleep? Are you feeling stressed? Are you eating properly? Addressing these issues can have a real impact on your sense of wellbeing.
Make a plan
Keep a diary and make a note of times when you feel particularly lonely, then try to plan something to do in advance. Arrange to see your family, go for a walk or catch up with a friend on the phone. If you’re not able to see anyone, catch up on Skype or find an activity to keep your mind busy, such as painting or crafting.
Loneliness can make you feel as though you’re missing out on life, so treating yourself kindly becomes increasingly important. Go to the cinema, make yourself a nice meal (or eat out!), or start going to a yoga session.
Visualise your plan
Imagining yourself going out and enjoying it can help you to make it a reality. If you’re feeling nervous, simply picture yourself going to an event, having a good time and striking up a conversation with a new friend. Visualisation can empower you to actually go out and do something.
Are you lonely? Take our loneliness personality test to find out how lonely you really are
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