If you're not sure how you measure up, take Harriet Griffey's quiz to find out where you sit on the confidence stakes – then read our tips to find out build up your self esteem.


Confidence is feeling emotionally sure, secure and strong – it’s the opposite of feeling fearful, anxious or scared.

It’s knowing in your heart that you are safe, capable and talented, and can accomplish, or at least try to accomplish, whatever it is that you want to do.

It’s all part of human nature to feel unsure about new situations, but it’s experiencing them that teaches us how to do things and gain confidence from doing them.

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7 ways to build up your confidence


Avoid negative self talk

We're often harder on ourselves than we would be on other people and it can be easy to get into the habit of self-criticism. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) may help.

You can find more information on the Mind website.


Spend less time on social media

When we spend lots of time on social media, we can start to compare ourselves to friends and celebrities and end up thinking that we can't possibly compare.It's important to remember that people's social media accounts don't necessarily reflect how their lives really are. Don't fall for the hype.


Hang out with friends and loved ones

Spending time with friends and family helps to remind us that we're loved and valued.


Make a list of your strengths and achievements

Sit down with a friend or relative and put together a list of your strengths and things you've achieved in your life.You may be surprised to discover good qualities or skills that you didn't know you had.


Learn to say no

Tired of agreeing to things that you'd rather not to? Before you accept immediately, take a breath and don't immediately agree to the request. Discover Natalie Lue's tips to stop being a people-pleaser on the In The Moment Magazine podcast.


Save up your compliments

Make a note when someone gives you a compliment and read them whenever you're lacking in confidence.


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